1. Prohibition of intermarriage with “small surname” and “exclusion”
In the relevant statutes of Wanli genealogy, there are clear provisions prohibiting intermarriage with "small surnames". As one of the rules of conduct for the clan, the first article of "Chongli Religion" of the "Tong's Great Ancestral Temple Regulations" says:
The ancestors established the religion with rituals, and the wedding ceremony and burial were all related to the old chapters. Although the practice cannot be exhausted, my family has passed down the practice and is quite organized. The only wedding festival is the solemn patriarchal law. Unworthy descendants. Greed for profit and endure shame, marrying men and women with small names, humiliating themselves and humiliating their ancestors for many episodes. In addition to not investigating the past, from now on, we will take photos of the surnames in the village where this ancestral hall is opened, and marry all the innocent families, rich and poor. Dare to be listed, be obedient and make a law, as usual, fined ten taels of silver, and still follow the dethronement of the clan.
As the text of the genealogy, it is not only the specific operation problem when editing the genealogy, but also the implementation of the punishment for those who have violated the rules of the clan. Wanli ten years "Dong's Genealogy Fan Li" has some words in advance:
It is an aristocratic family and an innocent person, Fang Yucheng is faint. The woman is recorded to marry a certain family in a certain place, and the daughter is suitable for a certain family in a certain place, or the person who writes a certain Weng and her husband together, pays attention to their virtuousness. There are people who are greedy for money and marry a small surname. The picture shows this husband "because of marrying a woman with a certain surname somewhere as his wife, and dethroning the clan.
Those who have children will write "the side room", and those who have no children will not be able to cut books. It is especially humiliating to have a female with a small surname. The parents expel the clan, and the uncle and uncle who presides over the marriage also expel the clan. If the pictures are described as married women, the biography is not included, and they are not allowed to enter the temple for life.
It also stipulates: “In the future, the offenders will expel the clan. The males still negotiate the punishment, and the females enter the shrine in pursuit of wealth. The mediators of this case shall be punished together. "
It can be seen that “Excommunication” is one of the important means of punishment, and has been implicated. In addition, there are economic penalties, which are very severe as a supporting measure. Which "small surnames" are not allowed to intermarry. Spectrum not specified.
2、Overview of wedding ceremony
In the old days, the Dong family paid attention to complete wedding ceremonies. For example, the words of the matchmaker were indispensable. Both men and women had to exchange geng towels, combine eight characters, open gift lists, and discuss dowry gifts. Judging from the clan rules contained in the Wanli spectrum, rituals are indispensable, but they are also opposed to extravagance and excessive demands for money and rituals, and believe that this is the performance of respecting rituals. The statute says:
At the time of the appointment, only those who received the golden ring paper book were not compared with the appointment ceremony. Next, take eight taels, pick up taels, and then pick up five taels of land, until the number reaches twenty taels. Duan Pi tea fruit is appropriate. When it comes to getting married, it is the middle way, if the equipment is abundant, and the thickness of the fold is just as appropriate. My director neither blames others, forgives the relatives in the four quarters nor blames me, and the common people are almost always righteous.
There are too many offerings for betrothal marriages, too much reproach after marriage, a little unsatisfactory, a gap between the two families, anger and respect for the husband, lack of love and righteousness. Since it is vulgar, the class proposed a punishment.
Marriage must choose auspicious days. But the dowry and sedan chairs were the first to arrive at the woman's house on the first day. In the early morning of the second day, the bride and dowry were carried to the front of the man's house. Supported by the two mothers, they lead a couple of newlyweds to worship the church, commonly known as "worship candles". First worship the heaven and earth, second worship the ancestors, third worship the parents, and then the husband and wife worship each other. After praying, lead the couple into the bridal chamber. In the room, we should eat "filial piety soup" (ie chicken soup) and "tongxin soup" (egg soup) together to show respect and filial piety to the elderly and harmony between husband and wife.
The wedding banquet usually takes three days. On the first day of marriage, it is called "House-warming Wine", which is characterized by setting a table in the new house and inviting boys about ten years old to sit down, which means that they will have an early child. The wedding day is the main seat, and all relatives and friends must be invited. The day was full of VIPs, delicious food, and very lively. The banquet on the third day is called escort, and the scope is limited to the closest relatives.
On the wedding night, it is inevitable to "make trouble" in the bridal chamber. There is a saying that "the newlyweds have no size for three days", within three days, the bride can be teased regardless of age. On the third day, the bride put on a cooking apron and went into the kitchen to fry beans and sesame seeds, which means that she has started to be a housewife. Commonly known as "into the kitchen".
After the marriage is completed, the man's family should prepare clothes, red envelopes, meat, eggs, cakes, etc. to thank the matchmaker.
According to word of mouth, until the period of the Republic of China, there was a special custom when Wen Zhao Gongfang Chun sent Yinming Yizhi as the child bride-in-law of the man in the house. That is, on the first night of the "round house", the child bride must be brought into the "Shouzhai Temple" of the seventeenth ancestor Liangfu Gong by the mother, and the face is twisted. Plus, put on a pair of ancestral red shoes for the night. Early the next day, the sedan chair went to the ancestral hall to pick up the daughter-in-law to formally worship the church. This pair of red shoes has quite a history and is said to be the relic of his twelfth-generation grandmother. The twelfth ancestor Shiming, known as "Ming Zhai Gong", lost his wife in middle age and lived with his daughter for a long time. The later daughter tried her best to promote her remarriage, and she gave birth to several children in a row, which was a good talk. The pair of red shoes worn by the grandmother was regarded as the mascot of many children and grandchildren. According to Daoguang Xiu's "Yin Ming Fang Pu", the twelfth generation of Shi Ming's biography, there is indeed a very consistent historical record: "Confucian scholar Shi Ming, taboo Wei, No. Ming Zhai, line 18." In middle age, he lost his spouse and had no heir, and married Pei in his old age. He even gave birth to five sons, and has sent thousands of families so far. "It is an exaggeration to say that Yin Mingfang later "dispatched thousands of houses". However, Pei's grandfather and grandmother gave birth to five sons in a row, so that Shiming, who was originally "without heirs", not only did not quit cigarettes, but also spawned a number of branches and many descendants, which is a great contribution in traditional society. The so-called "mother" Yi Zigui”. Therefore, even though it is a "succession room", her relics can still be kept in the ancestral hall like a fetish, and pray that it will continue to bring prosperity to future generations.